Keeping / maintaining a relationship

Whether it is friends, families or work mates, it takes effort and time from both sides to maintain an ongoing relationship. 

I am at the stage where as I grow older, my willingness or keen to put in an effort and spare a time to do this gets lesser and lesser....

R&k playing at Tesco!

=) 

Slacking! 18/5-26/5

19-23/5 attended my course. Met back with Ted and Jacqueline. Made two new friends. Freshen up on the knowledge. This time the course is at puchong four points. Farr. Tried this Vietnamese restaurant which is quite OK. Felt it was authentic Viet. Not sure.. Tried it with Ted and we talked about investment and stuff. Was good catch up with him. He will.be in Kl today till Monday for another course.

We were also told to be non negotiable with the 'client'  and don't do it for free in order for us to get started. I find this very true.

23/5 played badminton and broke my racquet. It's been more than 7 yrs I believe. 25/5 bought a new racquet at Kd shop. It is a nanoray 70dx for rm280.  Had chilli pan mee with chew after that. (he was going to watch diyana play futsal at sports Planet).

21/5 ran half marathon. My best timing thus far, 2:22 for 21 but because scklm distance is longer,  my actual timing is 2:34. I felt good. Can't say the same for hl. Lol

19/5 had dinner with MJ at Sri. Petaling organic shop

21/5 dinner at ruyi and Lynn with family for kammo and Kaufu's 40th anniversary. Nice funky food, worth trying at least once but didn't really like some of the dishes ie the lychee ball. Chicken was good.

21/5 after class before dinner, dropped by at Tesco to buy fabric freshener for the car seat (sweat etc) and milk! Got offer! 3 for rm15!

24/5 Bg with the guys. Tried Concordia. Love it!

24/5 met with Margaret to discuss on the plans for the garden, in approaching the partners. Collected pots from Suzie. 25/5 went to garden in the morning to discuss with mr Heng. Did some weeding and tile placing.

While waiting

I am now waiting for Bun wai to arrive at one Utama. Got time to write and crap. Finished sipping my milk tea

First, attended a coaching workshop yesterday with Cindy. Take away is to learn to apply that in any other relationship; be open, make the other party feel safe, make yourself trustworthy, active listening, success= awareness and action (make the party aware and take action)

After that went shopping at Tesco.  Finally restocked my cereal and milk. Bought ice cream too :D.

This morning I went to garden, met with Sathis. After discussion, he is willing to fund some of the materials for the rainwater harvesting. #awesome.  Now I need to find the pricing  for two more items before I submit it to him.

Looking to secure some new bgs this weekend.

Got scklm this weekend.

Got Bazi workshop.

On Monday attended CPA meeting, had mamam (mom mom like eating).  Not bad (had their mango chicken rice).  Siu Ching asked me to sign off her CPA (which I did) and introed me boxgreen. Decided to try one month and see how.

Nick's treat!

Group pic from Lucky Bo. Nick bought us an expensive dinner (20 pax?) last Saturday. We had wagyu steak, one medium and another medium rare.

I fine the medium rare relative raw, like sashimi, which made it much more delicious to eat, texture wise. The medium one is more chewy, so not that great. But did I enjoy it? I think it was an experience for me, as it was my first time tasting a steak close to the texture of a sashimi. However, later I realise what was missing for me was that it could have been juicier. The texture was good but no juice (maybe cos it is that raw that it does not work that way).

Anyway it was fun! Shame no after-dinner gaming session though. :( was looking for some party games/ spyfall.

Weekend

Jogging with hl and diyana. Did abt 40mins

Friday night yumcha at qbistro. No keys and nobody home so had to use side door to leave the house.

Spend the day chatting with mj

Sunday got two session of badminton. One with friends another with  family. Got popiah to eat in between. Lol

9/5

Helped out at the garden. Set up another raised bed, started the next one.

Did some composting, pour coffee grounds onto the beds, collected the limau purut and go at dung from eunice for kammo.

Rested for like 2hrs.

Then chat on phone, played computer,

At night played badminton for three hours before went for mamak alone. Rm3.50 for roti canai and milo ais. Tai!

Wow

Havent been blogging for more than  a week!

Quick updates :

Caught up with Joanne and kitmun (both were giving away their wedding cards)

Played badminton last Monday with ah Mei jie2 N ah leng jie2.

Watched guardians of the galaxy 2 sneak preview (wed mid night). Movie was funny!l for a superhero movi

Met with Jesslyn and Mindy also for a yumcha session. Jesslyn drives a BMW. O.o

Started reading jo nesbo's redeemer

Started germinating some seeds. So far the spinach is doing well!

Now am waiting to run with hl and diyana

Jjptr / money game

Boom! LOST RM1,410. Just entered last week then this weekend went bust!

Weekend with relatives

Thursday
Picked up them from airport
Drove to OU, had Mak Chee for lunch. Mak Chee belong to Po Ling jiejie's friend from HK
Drop Dad back home, drove them to Wah koko's house
went for CPA meeting


Friday
Lunch @ Ah Wah koko's house - chicken rice and some vege
Day time travel to Putrajaya for sightseeing
Fatty crab dinner at Ah Wah ko ko's house

Saturday
Gardening in the morning, managed to build 2.5 raised beds. do up three compost wire mesh area, used up the soil
Day time chill at home, drove to Yut Kee but it was not open. Had cendol for lunch
Dinner @ Grand Kingdom with Kaufu and Kuma etc
- salad lou sang with soft shell crab and fruits
- soup
- fish
- vege
- dessert
Cyber with guys - CS and Call of Duty
Sleepover at Wah's house

Sunday
Day trip to MLK
I drove there, back and the whole trip! Was slightly sleepy/ tired otw back. Thank god for prawn crackers
Ate chicken rice balls
Chill at hardrock cafe
Went to Tan Kim Hock (NOT TAN CHENG LOCK lolol)
Drove back, went to Klang for bubur goreng (NO MANTIS PRAWN, sobss)
Balik rumah
Yumcha with Sherry

emotions

so.

this afternoon, for a moment, after receiving a text from a X, I felt this utter sadness within me, that I do not want to do anything today. I just want to blank out and just not think. For this 10-30 seconds, it felt horrible. At least it was to me.

And of course, as adults, you come to term with reality and all. It is not the end of the world (duh), and at no point in life anyone should make you feel that way, and you should not let anyone do either.

Feelings and emotions, are complicated matters. And as you get older how you get into a relationship and fall in love changes. You put in more thought into commitment, the longer run and how viable is the relationship, even before it starts. You do not just rush into one and let the flow take you away. nooo.....

So.

What should i do about it? I decided to try to think and worry less about what other people think or feel about me (which to some extent it is not right as you might ruin a friendship) and be more forward about things (not to say I am not already).

I know what is the problem. Problem is the person I am slightly interested in does not have much in common with me. :(

CPA YPN

yumcha after meeting with Sharman, Sherry, Zen, Ee Feng, Esther and Shannon
was good :)

so prior to that
we discussed about the few activities.
had McD.

managed to jio Sherry to join me for Tuesday badminton session

Zen was talking about GoCar - RM15 per hour. We thought of taking it to Genting but finally realised that the free petrol is only for the first 15km. :(

bazi ref

https://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Ba_Zi/Hsia_Calendar

Tired

I am so tired today. I don't know what I want to do later. I wish that I am more energetic at the moment, maybe this is because I am didn't eat my lunch.

My trip to hometown. I drove back with my dad on Friday we took turns to drive. I started off driving after lunch and I stopped around Rawang. Then my Dad drove for an hour before I took back the wheels. We reached around 6 and went straight for dinner. I met ah Chee for the second time (last was when he was still single,  about 15yrs ago). This time he came to PG with his wife and kids. Wife is Carmen and kids ar Wai Oi and Wai Sun. We ate seafood/dishes.

After dinner we went to my cousin's Hotel in. Batu ferringhi. They stayed in hard Rock. We stayed for about, 30-45mins chatting before we head back. We stayed at kuma's house in lipsin

Second day we waited at home for hin pek they all to come over. I wanted to eat Bihun mee but ate Porridge instead because dad bought a big pack for kuma.

We chatted for a bit while dad went to hiking with his friends from Australia. We then drove out for dinner at this famous place in Lebuh presgrave, famous for its Prawn noodle.

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on the third day I took my dad to the cemetery,  we visited ah ma,  ah Kong and mom.after that we went to air itam to visit kaima and 2 yee. Dad ate laksa. After that we went to. Batu lanchang for ais kacang and green fish.

I went out to meet thing thing and Vaine. Had four spoons. Not bad place in pg. Had Waffles for dinner. Went outside to watch football too.

Stayed at helens house.

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Fourth day took ah kaima, uncle, 2yee and dad to visit ah kim jie jie. Then brought them. Back to visit kuma. Stayed for awhile then drove them back.  Had my milk.and nasi lemak.

- last day, took them to visit doctor before I drove back home.

lunch with shirlik

makan with shirlik at tonkatsu, tried out the entertainer app. 2 pax for RM39. not bad!
went yum tealive.

dortmund played their game 24hrs after the bombing of their bus. i was wow when i found out they are playing.

prepping for interview tmr skype call.

later celebrate ah leng jie2's bday

met up with jesslyn yesterday too. good chat! :D exchange background stories. she's eldest. food science local grad. quite friendly person. :)

Garden

Last week transfer the plants away from the garden. Saturday moved tubs into Ecoknights. Monday moved bricks and wood.
Direction unclear now.

Weekend

Friday tried Shugatori with Tricia, Catherine, Terry Nick Ccw and Deanna. Pan cake and waffle is meh. Didn't try the toast. After that yumcha at mamak. Ordered chapati to share. Not bad. Will try it again.

Went hiking on Saturday with eefeng. Did saga. Initially she struggled but she got better and better. Happy that she managed to get to the top in the end.

Ate two tuna tarts, one siew bao and one bowl of noodles! The noodles' Sui kao quite good.

At night celebrated Cindy's bday at iam80scafe. We talked abt money game which Karen is already in. We over ordered but the food is not bad.

Sunday evening went for a short run before playing rummy with Catherine Terry, Nick and chew dee. Chew won 60+mstly due to diyana. I lost all!

Kl

Badminton at new vision,  not as fun as in champions. Nick left without even playing, not sure the exact reason why but Calvin did his thing to him and Nick left.

Spend a lot of time at the garden and ended up the work is wasted cos on Friday we decided to redo with the help of dbkl.

Applied to think city

Sold some shares, jcy, esceram and rgb

Transfer shares from Rhb to cimb

Going hiking later with eefeng

Tried Shugatori,  cookie Nation this week. Both so so

Liverpool drew. How predictable.

Day 4

Time flies. Going back tomorrow. Went to qing ming this morning. To mount Eskrine there for grandma (dad side)  then to batu gantung (near the horse racecourse). After that back to mum's place.

Had lunch at Chong nam (where we usually go for hawker at night with kaima).  Ordered mee mamak.

After that visited Yong and Mr Chan home with po ling jie2 and her husband. It was interesting to know that his son is sustaining his life through air bnb (three properties) and that he actually invested in solar panels and broke even already.

We then head to queensbay mall for like 30mins. I wanted to buy the seasoning kaima asked for but aeon don't have stock (odd). Anyway I dropped po ling jie2 home afterwards, before picking kammo up. We visited kumar for a bit, then she gave kaima and her some keichi (wolf berry).  Kammo then led me to sunshine farlim, where I managed to buy the seasoning.

Back to air Itam, kammo told me she will have dinner with her relatives. So, I head out to the market for nestum milk and nasi lemak. Total is 4.50. Drank vitagen and ate pandan cake after that.

Did more update on my resume before driving out to pass the plants to BP..

Now waiting nia,  by the sea side

Day 3

Woke up,  exercised,  drove to kumar's place. Ate economic Bihun mee.  Rm1.5!
And yummy!

Met with kumar, po Ling jie2, her husband and aunty Helen.  Drove them to tanjung tokong temple. The story about the place is that during the Japanese war time, they dropped loads of bomb. The local ppl will hide under the big rock.

After that visited kuanyin temple near little India. Then we eat lunch at this restaurant near Komtar.  So so only the food.

We dropped po Ling jie2 and husband at Armenian St area for them to walk walk and sightsee the murals. Head to kumar house, stayed for awhile  and chatted with ah what koko and Nicole before going back home to kaima house.

Updated a bit more of my resume, took a rest, showered before heading out again for dinner at Perut.

After dinner,  po Ling jie2, husband and I headed to Paragon for drinks.  I ordered English breakfast.